I was thinking about you today … and how you make me feel
Wishing you were just a dream … wishing you weren’t real
But the truth is that you are here to stay
You are never going to leave
This is something I am learning to accept
Something I know and something I believe
I am doing the very best I can
Taking each day one at a time
Honoring what I need for me
Accepting that some days... I am not fine
There is something I have been meaning to say
Something important I want you to hear
I will allow you to walk alongside me
I will allow you to stay near
But you will not block my path
You will not get in my way
You will honor and respect me
You will listen to what I say
You will comfort me when I am down
You will hold me good and tight
You will allow me to have good and bad days
And you will love me with all your might
The truth has become quite clear to me…
Grief… you are here to stay
It’s okay… you are welcome here
But this has to be done my way…
xo
Gabby
Thank you once again, Gabby for your wise words. Intense grief has hit me 3 times in my life. First as a vulnerable, believing 13 year old. After giving birth to my sister and I and losing two babies at birth due to the RH factor, then untreatable, my mother became unexpectedly pregnant again. I was so excited and absolutely believed this baby would be OK because God knew how much we wanted it. My much wiser mother cautioned me and my sister that regardless, this baby would not survive. I have never really understood how my mom dealt with this knowledge, because I could never bring myself to talk about it with her. I do know, when my little…
Your words are inspiring my discernment toward becoming a grief educator. Putting words down in the form of a poem has been healing for me. I appreciate all that you share.