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At what point do we say STOP?

I recently watched the Netflix series “From Scratch,” which is based on the book by Tembi Locke. As you move through your life after a...

My Memory

My memory, and my heart, is where you are stored I don’t think I could handle it if I couldn’t go there any more I am not sure what I...

Finding light in the darkness...

When I returned to work after my brother died, I went to see my first patient. I walked into the room of a young man who was dying, and...

Everyone has a story.

While waiting in the airport recently, I couldn’t help but overhear a conversation between two younger women, strangers initially but...

Nothing else matters...

"If I knew then what I know now I would have done things differently." This is something I have said many times over the years. I had the...

If only...

When I was a little girl, I remember watching my mother at her sewing machine making beautiful wedding dresses for other people and I...

Grief changes from day to day

If you asked me how I was doing I’ll tell you what I would say Grief is really messy And it changes from day to day Some days I am...

What Would Gabby Say?

Oh how I do love a good "What Would Gabby Say?" question... This one was really really good!! Dear Gabby... What has death taught you?...

One drawer at a time...

Cleaning the closets and drawers after someone dies is one of the hardest things to do. Some people leave it for weeks or months because...

Fragile does not mean weak.

Many times, while working in end-of-life care, I have felt like I was almost obligated to reassure people that this work is not hard, and...

That Final Bow

What if we did things differently What if we didn’t waste so much time What a difference it could make in your life What a difference it...

What does it mean to get back to normal?

I hear this a lot, and I find myself a little surprised when someone asks, “are you getting back to normal now?” NO! Nothing will ever be...

It is okay to cry.

Sometimes I wish I had a remote control for the tears that fall uncontrollably from my eyes. I wish that I could contain them, that I was...

What is love?

I went to a funeral of a patient yesterday, which is not something I do often. He was a good and kind man, who loved his family so much...

I am not dead yet.

I have experienced a lot of loss I have had to say many goodbyes I’ve had buckets full of tears Pouring from my eyes But I have also...

Forever tied together with love.

I walked in their door a hospice nurse, but the doula in me decided that it was her work that was needed more, and thankfully the patient...

I really, really miss you.

Grief is everywhere I feel it always Sometimes it is painful Sometimes I find myself smiling Most of the time I cry inside I look outside...

Finding Peace Within

One of the things I talk a lot about, especially in my Ritual & Ceremony class that focuses on forgiveness, is learning to let go and to...

My own self care...

People always ask me if I take time out for myself. I used to say something like, “yes, of course,” even when I knew I was not being...