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Talk about it.

I often say that no one asks me how my day is, because I think they are afraid I am going to tell them. Most people do not want to hear...

Love Letters

I was going through a few boxes of old photos that also included cards and notes I felt compelled to save for thirty-plus years, and came...

The Grief Bowl

One of the questions I am asked often, is whether or not I experience my own grief while watching others anticipate and go through their...

Why?

When someone is given a terminal diagnosis, with a life expectancy of six months or less to live, they find themselves with questions...

Broken can still be beautiful...

I was talking to a friend today, also a hospice nurse, who just came back to work after taking the last few months off to care for her...

Priceless Possessions

I do not have a lot of memories of my childhood, but there are certain things that have stayed with me my whole life. When I was very...

When those last breaths are taken...

I received a message this morning from a woman who said goodbye to her mom in the middle of the night. I was with her yesterday, and one...

When it isn't a beautiful death...

We all hope for a "beautiful" death for ourselves and the people we love... and most times, it happens, or it comes close. I am blessed...

We wait...

There is absolutely no rhyme or reason why one person goes quickly in their sleep, while another holds on for days, and days, and days. I...

Talking to children about death

I was with a gentleman recently who was far too young to die... and his greatest ache was saying goodbye to his daughter, who hadn't hit...

A softer landing...

With every patient or family member I have the honor to sit with as a life is about to end, I learn and I grow. There is always a...

Reflection

"If you reflect on your past experiences, you look at them once again thoughtfully." One thing I am absolutely certain of is that we...

Meet them where they are

People often ask me what they can say to someone who is grieving, but also to someone who is dying. There is always going to be some...

It is their loss too.

I was recently at the home of a woman who died. She was in her nineties, she lived a good life, and she was loved by many. When her last...

My first time alone since he died...

I have a patient who died a few days ago. During the weeks, days, and moments prior to his death, his entire team of caregivers,...

Kindness and Respect

I had a tough day yesterday... I responded to a call that a patient had died, a homeless man, living alone in a shelter. I won't share...

Out of the Mouths of Babes

I recently had dinner with a woman I only met a few weeks ago ... she is lovely, her heart is big and it is generous, and she is kind....

Quiet Reflection

Every morning I pull a different card from one of my many random boxes of Goddess, Fairy, Shaman, Healer, Angel, or Star Child cards. I...

Celebration of Life

I recently went to a memorial service for a patient I didn't meet until after he became non responsive. I didn't know anything about him....