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What Would Gabby Say?

Oh how I do love a good "What Would Gabby Say?" question... This one was really really good!! Dear Gabby... What has death taught you?...

One drawer at a time...

Cleaning the closets and drawers after someone dies is one of the hardest things to do. Some people leave it for weeks or months because...

Fragile does not mean weak.

Many times, while working in end-of-life care, I have felt like I was almost obligated to reassure people that this work is not hard, and...

That Final Bow

What if we did things differently What if we didn’t waste so much time What a difference it could make in your life What a difference it...

What does it mean to get back to normal?

I hear this a lot, and I find myself a little surprised when someone asks, “are you getting back to normal now?” NO! Nothing will ever be...

It is okay to cry.

Sometimes I wish I had a remote control for the tears that fall uncontrollably from my eyes. I wish that I could contain them, that I was...

What is love?

I went to a funeral of a patient yesterday, which is not something I do often. He was a good and kind man, who loved his family so much...

I am not dead yet.

I have experienced a lot of loss I have had to say many goodbyes I’ve had buckets full of tears Pouring from my eyes But I have also...

Forever tied together with love.

I walked in their door a hospice nurse, but the doula in me decided that it was her work that was needed more, and thankfully the patient...

I really, really miss you.

Grief is everywhere I feel it always Sometimes it is painful Sometimes I find myself smiling Most of the time I cry inside I look outside...

Finding Peace Within

One of the things I talk a lot about, especially in my Ritual & Ceremony class that focuses on forgiveness, is learning to let go and to...

My own self care...

People always ask me if I take time out for myself. I used to say something like, “yes, of course,” even when I knew I was not being...

Who cares for the caregiver?

I was recently with a woman who is ninety-seven. Her two children, who are both in their late seventies (and are not children anymore),...

The Foggy Days of Grief

I was thinking recently that grief is like a really foggy day; you go out for a walk, you see the path below your feet, you are moving...

The Best Dream I Ever Had

When my sister died several years ago, I didn't get to say goodbye. I didn't get to tell her all the things I wanted her to know. I know...

Emotional Pain vs. Physical Pain

We talk a lot about physical pain at the end of life. Not all illnesses have pain as a symptom, but physical discomfort is something we...

I don't remember you.

Several years ago, I was blessed to be at the bedside of an incredibly kind and generous man. Because of him I was gifted a lifetime...

Let's Talk About It

If we talked about it more openly If we said the words out loud If we pushed aside the fear and the uncertainty Maybe the conversation...