Gabrielle Elise Jimenez
Conversations with Grievers
Updated: Mar 30
Almost every single day I speak with someone who is either preparing to say goodbye, has just said goodbye, or is doing their best to make it through their grief journey. Grief is everywhere, and it is in everything. It’s in every song, movie, and smell that wafts through each day, with absolutely no intention of going anywhere. You can’t hide from it, you can’t ask it to go away, and you can’t pretend it isn’t there… anyone who is grieving, knows it is very, very there.
It is within the moments of grief that I experience with others, when the deep and beautiful conversations that I have with them begin. Grief is an invitation to a past, to history, to feelings, to a life that was led before it ended, and I am gifted these moments. Often.
Grief sometimes feels like the sky when it is in the process of deciding between sunshine and thunderstorms. It can be chaotic and mysterious, provoking emotions that can sometimes be painful, but more often beautiful. Conversations with grievers are like this as well… fifty shades of unpredictable colors, painting a new picture every day, sharing a different story… one that I cannot wait to hear.
Sometimes I wonder if grievers wore a button on their shirt that read, “Please be gentle with me, grief in process,” people would be more inclined to ask questions, and check in, and sit with someone who is grieving, offering them a safe place to share their stories… at a time when most people have stopped asking.
As a griever myself, I often set a stage with conversations I am having, hoping to add a story or two about my parents, my siblings or my friends that have all died, because I never want to stop talking about them. I think that is why I lean in a little closer to other grievers, new and experienced, so I can invite them to have conversations about the people they love, reminding them to never stop talking about them.
Open yourself up to conversations with grievers, they have a lot to say about people that really matter to them, and our invitation allows their stories, and memories, to continue to be told.
You can find the pin, which was designed by Jamie Thrower, on Instagram: @queergriefclub